So We’re Doing In Vitro Fertilization

19 Jun

It feels really scary to write that title. Terrifying actually, but we just got back from our appointment at the doctor’s office and I’m actually very relieved like we might be on the right track.  We went in and they did a full review of my medical history and then the doctor wanted to do an ultrasound to take a look and compare it to one from December. It seems that I have a decent sized  fibroid in my right ovary and she seems to think that combined with my endometriosis could really be the issues preventing me from getting pregnant. There’s really no way to know unless they go in and remove it though. Basically, we were advised that with my medical history and our available funds that IVF would probably be the best situation for us. We discussed doing IUI assisted with clomid or injectables, but there’s a greater chance that my body won’t respond to it well and then we’ll have depleted the funds that we could have used to do IVF in the first place. Plus, if we end up having embryos that we can freeze, there’s a possibility that we could end up just needing to do another egg transfer to get pregnant again down the road. It’s a drastic measure but one that we’re willing to take now.

The scary parts are the money and I have a fear of all of the effects of these fertility drugs on my body. None of this is covered by insurance and the hospital doesn’t allow us to do any sort of financing for IVF so we’re looking at making one big lump sum payment up front. The success rate that we were quoted was 30%. I know I’ve heard different ones and some even as high as 50%. I’m hoping that the doctor is just being conservative with those numbers. I know in any case that we’ll be heartbroken if this doesn’t work but I’m trying to be cautiously optimistic.

We said right away that we were on board and we thought this might have been where we were headed anyway so we started the process right away. Both of us had to get blood drawn and screened for a slew of STDs and things like that and we had to sign some consent forms. We’ll go back for another appointment to review those blood results and talk about selecting a new donor from a cryobank. They absolutely will not allow us to use our current donor since he is not an intended parent. With all we’ve been through at this point, we’re fine with that. After we select a donor, we have to go back to the RE that I’ve been seeing for our first IVF consultation appointment and then I can start the injectables. They think that we should be able to get all of this taken care of and our first round will actually be in August. I can hardly believe it! It seems like everything always takes so long to get in order but August isn’t that far away at all!

The doctor said that we can keep trying the way we have been until we start IVF since it can’t hurt. We talked about it and we think we’ll still go ahead as planned with June but we may take July off. It would conflict with a scheduled vacation, and although we could work around it, it might be best for us to just take a month to chill out and give our heads and my ladyparts a rest. We’ll talk to our donor this upcoming weekend to sort some things out and let him and his boyfriend know about our plans changing. So, hang on this ride is about to get a bit more bumpy but hopefully this means there are amazing things ahead very soon!

2 Responses to “So We’re Doing In Vitro Fertilization”

  1. Lex June 20, 2012 at 2:30 am #

    Wow, that’s big news! Sounds like it’s the right decision for you and I’m glad that you’re on a route that feels more hopeful. Best of luck to you – and also with choosing the donor!

    • elyima June 20, 2012 at 6:58 pm #

      Thanks, Lex. I think at this point the donor is the easy part! 🙂

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